You only think you love yourself.

                I asked someone,"on a scale from 1-10, how much would you say you love yourself, 1 being hate and 10 being unconditionally?" the person responded with a sure 8. That's pretty high, awesome right? Wrong! liking yourself and loving yourself are not the same, but are commonly mistaken for each other. Don't get me wrong, there are the few that actually do love themselves, but it definitely isn't common.

1.What is Love?

Although I myself am not religious I believe in the bible's description of love. That is my moral compass, the backboard by which I bounce off every idea, feeling, relationship, and conscious act.

To claim that you love yourself you must have a concrete understanding of what love means to you. If your idea of love wavers then you could love yourself today and hate yourself tommorow...

2.Do you know yourself?

Most people have NO IDEA who they are, at all. We spend our lives trying to shimmy our way in and out of boxes, so what does it mean to know yourself? Start by asking yourself this: If society never told me who I was, what I should or shouldn't do, what I should and shouldn't like, Who would I be?

     Through realizing that you are, until this point, only a projection of other peoples ideals, you can now begin to get to the center of you. The Real You. This is a long arduous task. You have to rethink everything you ever thought about yourself, or anyone else for that matter. As well as rethinking everything you believe and why you believe them. When you start inspecting the root of your actions you will begin the process of self realization.

3.Putting it into action

Once you have begun the journey of finding your true self, beneath the bed of everyone elses crap, you can put your belief system of Love into effect, on yourself!!

Don't worry! Take it one day at a time, and every day you can put your money where your mouth is a day that you can say with truth that you love yourself, until then.....

Peace and Love to You

Top 4 Reasons You Didn't Get it Together in 2014

             Every year  you make a list of  "Resolutions"; For the sake of this post we'll call it the"S#it List". I hear everything from losing 75lbs, to getting married, to making 1million dollars. The buck stops here folks!!  I'm Going to tell  you the Top 4 reasons those resolutions are never resolved, and hopefully move you in the right direction for 2015.

I've been guilty of making this list and checking it twice, every year never accomplishing one single item on it. I watched my friends beat themselves up at the end of every year upon realizing that they too had achieved nothing on their list. What did they do wrong?? What have we all done wrong?

 

#4 Too Many Distractions

 
 
 
 
 
 

We are too easily distracted. Granted there is a lot going on in the world, politically, socially,and in our personal lives, but is seems as though we have the attention span of a bar of soap.

 

How do you expect to succeed at anything if you refuse to focus on the tings that will propel you in a positive direction? You think Jay Z became the Mogul he is today by getting caught up in the life of every Tom, Dick, and Harry, forsaking his own vision? I think not.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

#3No Real Game Plan  

               So you said that 2014 was going to be your year. You were going to leave no room for failure, and quitting wasn't an option, We didn't believe you. The reason a lot of people secretly thought you were full of it is because you had no solid plan in place to execute any of your visions. Yeah you said you were going to work out twice a week before breakfast, but that's not a plan.A plan covers a lot more bases than one, and just because you logged it into your calendar doesn't mean it made sense or that you really even believe that you can accomplish what you're setting out to do. There are strategies to success, strategies that cannot be ignored.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

#2 The Company You Keep

 

The people that you entertain or are entertaining you will directly influence your ambitions toward self improvement. For example If you are trying to quit smoking and your friends keep leaving you alone in the house so that they can go smoke outside, you will be less likely to quit for fear of being ostracized or abandoned. If the people you are around are helping create a positive environment  then success comes a lot easier.

 

 

#1 Lack of Self Evaluation

 

 

 

 

 

 

The number one reason you didn't accomplish what you wanted to  this year is that a part of you didn't want to do it!!!!

" What?!!! Yes I did!!!!!!"you say. No you didn't, and that's why a self evaluation in critical in success. You might think you want to do something but until you know why you want to do it , and figure our if doing it would be in your best interest you cannot guarantee your self success in any particular area of your life.

 

 

For The new year we will be discussing how to Make the perfect Goal list for 2015 and how to properly execute it for optimal success, so stay turned!!